In 2001, Wayne Dyer wrote 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace - a book outlining ten spiritual principles for people interested in examining their life and discovering what was important to them while living life and making choices. Fast forward to this month with Serena Dyer and her dad, Wayne Dyer, co-creating a book based on the same 10 ‘secrets’ relative to how Serena’s parents raised her and her seven siblings.
There a few reasons I am pleased to read and review this unique book.
First, anyone who knows me knows that for more than 10 years I have been integrating Wayne Dyer’s work into my life, and I am profoundly grateful for all that I have learned, and continue to learn, from this wise man. To read Serena’s words about Wayne from the parenting perspective, and how he truly lived/lives what he writes about and teaches, is wonderful.
Second, I am a parent of two grown children, one who is slightly younger than Serena and one who is slightly older than Serena. All of them are part of the Generation Y (also called Millennials, Y Generation, Generation We and Echo Boomers), and are between 24 and 34 years old. Being a parent of children the same age as Serena, I can relate to some of the stories she used as examples in the book.
Third, I am very pleased that Serena wrote this book because I am a huge proponent of bringing forth the importance of living mindfully to Generation Y. This will, of course, positively impact future generations. According to many spiritual teachers, a high percentage of Millennials are also said to be Indigo Children, people who are here to assist us with living closer to our true essence.
Whether a person of this age group is an Indigo Child or not, we are living in a time of significant spiritual growth (individually and collectively), and moving in the direction of higher consciousness. The 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace certainly contribute to this time of significant evolution. The 10 secrets are:
Don’t die with the music still in you
Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing
You can’t give away what you don’t have
Give up your personal history
You can’t solve a problem with the same energy that created it
There are no justified resentments
Treat yourself as if you are already what you’d like to be
Treasure your divinity
Wisdom is avoiding all thoughts that weaken you
Some other meaningful, strong messages throughout the book include: non-attachment, living in love, having an attitude of gratitude, and being non-judgmental. In each chapter, Serena writes about how she was parented in relationship to each ‘secret’, and then Wayne offers his insight to her stories and how it relates to the ‘secret’. In one chapter Serena wrote about when she was younger and gossiping with girlfriends. Her Dad overheard them and he told Serena and her friends: ‘ If someone comes at you in a judgmental way and you judge them for it, you just doubled the amount of judgment in the space you’re both in.’
When we are really grounded, the principles may be easier to incorporate into our lives. I find when I allow myself to be energetically weakened, that is when I have difficulty mastering the principles. Yoga and Meditation help me maintain a positive perspective and a high level of energy.
Throughout the book it was also wonderful to hear about Serena’s relationship with her Mom, Marcelene, and the impact her Mom has on her life. Marcelene taught her children the importance of Meditation and silence by meditating every single day and by really listening to her children when many other parents would be talking, talking, talking and constantly telling their children what to do. We’ve all heard the phrase, Silence is Golden, right? The Dalai Lama once said that if every child spent time in silence one hour a week on compassion, we would eliminate all the world’s violence in one generation. Wouldn’t that be wonderful?
In the chapter titled, Give up Your Personal History, Serena wrote about one of my favorite phrases – individually four seemingly understated words, but put together – so powerful: We are all connected. When we are mindful of the ego, and how that shows up as we are living our lives, and especially when we are attached to thoughts related to: ‘what’s in it for me’, we can make the choice to let go of what no longer serves us and stay connected to our source, energy, and one another.
Everything is energy. When we feel sick, our body does not feel good. When we have thoughts that are not positive, they can weaken our energy and affect us physically and emotionally. Both Wayne and Serena talk throughout the book about the importance of being positive and they remind us when we act negatively, we have the ability to make the choice to shift in that moment and move toward a more positive outcome.
Don’t Die with Your Music Still In You is a wonderful book about spirituality, living with awareness, being authentic and seeking inner peace by noticing our responses in the ten areas outlined in the book. Throughout the book Serena includes meaningful quotes, like her Dad does in his books. I have always enjoyed how Wayne weaves beautiful quotes into passages in his books and it was wonderful to see Serena take that same approach. In fact, when I write my book, I will do that as well. Touching quotes are a wonderful opportunity to have the reader stop and pause, and reflect not only the quote, but also how it relates to the chapter/reading.
I recommend this book to people of all ages who are: exploring life with meaning, curious about how to be aware of their role in relationships, want to live with purpose, and are interested in discovering what feeds their soul.
Make an amazing day!
Photo of me and Wayne from Writing From the Soul, Denver, CO – April 2013